"Orphan" is a catchphrase that I've heard a lot recently. Online, from the pulpit, & in books. I came upon a blog the other day that did an amazing job of portraying the reality of orphan care in Haiti. It is well thought out, a blog that creates more questions than answers. Just the kind that I like. Click on the link if you're interested.
Here is my favorite exert:
"Since the earthquake Haiti has been inundated with new churches and missions groups and small and large organizations that are seeking to help. Most of them probably have really great hearts and decent intentions. The problem is that many (and I mean many) have come to build their own orphanages. That seems to be the hip thing to do right now. A lot of them probably have no grasp of what is already taking place on the ground. They come without the benefit of years and experience and the understanding of culture. They come thinking that taking in and housing/feeding children can only be good. They want to offer children things their poor families cannot. They come thinking that when someone brings them a child they are hearing the true and accurate story about the reasons the child must be abandoned there. Some come forgetting that starting an orphanage is at least a 20 year project unless you plan to bail-out a bunch of kids mid-stream.
We should all be asking if this is the best use of funds and energy? We should be asking if this is good for Haiti? Is building new very expensive structures to take in children with families good stewardship? We should be asking if giving people more places to put their children might possibly create more orphans? Seriously. We should. We should be asking if it might be money better spent by investing in existing structures that either do things with integrity and take excellent care of kids or in programs that work to keep families together and help support women to raise their own children. It should be wrestled with constantly. Couldn't we think outside of the box about ways to support families to keep their children at home? Wouldn't that cost less than building giant buildings? With upwards of 400,000 institutionalized children and just a few hundred adoptions, doesn't it make sense to search for better alternatives?"
This week, we entered our sixth infant into the formula program in Klinik Jubilee. Let me say that again: in the past 3 months, we have come into contact with six new "orphans." Five women died during childbirth (we have one set of twins). Six babies whose Dads are not around.
But the story DOES NOT end there. Each week we have the privilege of seeing Aunts & Uncles bring in these babies. They are weighed and given formula. Orphans no more, each one of these sweet children have a home. Their families have absorbed them naturally. Beauty out of sadness, it is so sweet to see. The world might label them as an orphan, but they have become absorbed into their biological families. Hear me loud & clear: if we say we believe so strongly in taking care of the orphans, that should also mean fighting for them to stay with their family if possible. A child in a family structure always does better than in an institution. We all desire to belong to someone.
I write this to celebrate! Celebrate these families who have taken in these kids.
I write this to ask. Help us help these families take care of their own. It costs about $15 per week to provide formula for one infant. In Klinik Jubilee, we have seen that these infants who get formula for the first 6 months do not need the supplemental nutrition of Medika Mamba (medicinal peanut butter). They do not even qualify for it! I'm a huge believer in preventative medicine. Help us to prevent the need for more extreme measures such as Medika Mamba. Help us continue to find creative ways of keeping families together. If you are interested in being a part of this, please contact me.
"Whatever I had read as a child about the saints had thrilled me. I could see the nobility of giving one's life for the sick, the maimed, the leper. But there was another question in my mind. Why was so much done in remedying the evil instead of avoiding it in the first place? Where were the saints to try to change the social order, not just to minister to the slaves, but to do away with slavery?